I have never fully understood why people feel the need to disrespect,
cut down, belittle and body shame someone else for not being the ideal
weight. I am having some difficulty understanding why people feel the
need to control and dictate what someone else does, especially when it
comes to their body. While there are a number of things I could list,
the biggest problem I have is people of all races, ethnic groups and
various upbringings feel the need to condemn those who do not make
perfect and wise choices, as a person feels they should. Some may argue
that they are simply "looking out for another human, for health
reasons." If you do not personally know the person, have a loving and
respectful relationship with that person, how are you able to know
anything about them much less have a right to tell them how to lose
weight?
There are several reason why someone is
"unhealthy" or "unfit and out of shape," but why is it we hear more
about people being "obese," "fat," and "over weight" than we do of
people being under weight. Everyone has their views of "Plus Size," and
that is irrelevant, but what does matter is how you make someone feel.
What purpose does it serve to re-inform someone they are "fat?" How does
body shaming help anyone? You may be right, the person may need to lose
weight, or stop eating, or exercise more, or whatever else you
judgmental people may think. BUT, is it really worth the judgement and
criticism from you to make someone else feel bad? You do not know
someone's past, present or even future, so you are unable to determine
by FACTS the true nature of a person's weight, body and if they can even
help it. What if they already are doing something about it? Then you
not only wasted your breathe saying something mean but you also
validated the horrible negative thoughts that the person may already
thinking. Don't you think this world is already filled with enough
hatred, body shaming and other horrible things?
Why is
it ok for someone to disrespect and cast stones at a bigger person but
it is not ok to say something to a smaller, maybe under-thin person. We
are all battling our own demons, body shaming and criticism from
ourselves, why add to someone else's by your selfish thoughts and
opinions. I am not saying you should not help a friend who wants to lose
weight or express concerns, but I am saying we all, me included, need
to keep watch on our thoughts and make sure we are not judging someone
else while we have our own "judgements" going on. I encourage you to be
the smile that brightens someone's day and the person that shows someone
not all people in this world are cruel!
